Moving out of a parents home can be quite the stressful situation. Even doing it the second time, like I did this past week can still become stressful. I have lived in an apartment once before with my boyfriend Michael, sadly due to mental health issues I had to leave early, but this past Wednesday I have moved in again with Michael. I have always loved living on my own, I learned early how to cook and clean so living away from my parents has come easily to myself. I love planning dinner and cooking it with Michael, and I love waking up and having a balcony to sit on while reading in the morning light. I love being able to have slightly more alone time then I had living at my parents (where counting myself there was five people living in the house) whereas here there is only Michael and I.
But moving out can be a stressful situation, where me and Michael are currently living the lease will be up in a couple of months so we are already looking for a new apartment to live in, which has become harder since due to my social anxiety I have not learned the basic streets of my city and find it hard figuring out where the apartments I am looking at online are, and what is around them (ie. grocery stores, bus stops). Also moving away from my parents has been hard, I’ve always had a strong connection with my parents, which has grown stronger with my hospital admissions and sharing my mental health story. My parents are both my best friends and my biggest support, not having them there at three in the morning when I’m triggered can be quite hard, but knowing I have Michael, and knowing that I CAN do this alone, and I CAN recover and support myself helps me greatly. Also knowing that they will not be greatly angry at me if I truly need them and call late at night helps also.
Overall I am happy to be moved out. I like knowing that my parents have more personal time know that there are not as many people living at home, due to my father opening his own business at the end of last year they have not been able to have alone time together just to sit and talk and relax together, and I know me moving out has helped in some way to give them more time together alone. I’m also happy because it has given me more independence, which I haven’t fully had in my life, I’ve depended on my parents, on mental health professionals, on nurses to guide me and help me for years, and know I am able to make my own decisions and rely on myself. I am happy because it lets me try new recipes in a kitchen that is my own, and try recipes that some of my family members wouldn’t eat. Moving out has brought me and Michael closer, and has built a stronger bond in our relationship, even if it has only been a couple of days. It has allowed myself to recover, I refuse to let razorblade’s into this apartment, alcohol, or a scale to test my weight, not allowing these things in my apartment has, and will help my recovery. Like I said, overall moving out will help my recovery greatly.
Have you moved out recently? Has it been hard dealing with mental health issues while living alone/with a significant other/friends? Has it been a positive or negative for your recovery?